I’ve wondered why people in a long distance relationships seem to get a lot more hassle and negativity than “normal” couples. I’ve come to realise that there is still a heavy stigma attached to couple who seem to be able to make it work without regular physical proximity.
This will be a kick off post which I hope will spark of other posts about related topics.
Before Danielle the longest distance there was between my girlfriend & I was about 90 miles give or take. She came up to mine every other weekend, I won’t get into the relationship because that will be part of another post but for now it’s the distance & such. I didn’t even think of it as long distance, there was just a bit of travelling involved.
So when Danielle & I decided to be together, I knew things would be different that anything I knew before. I’ve known people in long distance relationships before, I’ve known people to do similar to us, and I’ve known people whose relationship has become long distance because of situations.
In a way, I know this discussion has a tangent that I’m slightly ignoring but I’ll get to that as well in another post (relationships started without physically meeting). What I want to focus on is those relationships where there is distance involved that mean the couple are apart from longer than they are together and to be physically together often just isn’t an option.
While thinking of some ideas for posts and just in general about our relationship, it’s struck me that much of the advice and thought that I will share, can be applied to regular contact relationships too.
Basically, why do LDR couples get a lot of hassle, or even just very curious questions, that other couple’s don’t?
I’m thinking things like
You don’t see each other regularly, they could seeing someone else?
How does it work if you can’t visit each other?
What do you talk about?
How do you socialise?
What is this like/ what do you do about this or that?
My mind is drawing a blank on other examples just now, but a lot of it revolves around the fact that people still don’t get it that LDRs should still have the same basis as every other relationship.
I’ve rambled a bit, not quite the post I had in mind when I started, but I think this is a good start.
Please do ask us ideas, and share this about, suggest topics, ask questions.