I mentioned we hadn’t posted last night to Dani when another LDR blog fanmailed us, and I agree with Danielle that maybe we should just delete this. 
We started it because we were going to post here rather than our individual blogs, but that hasn’t happened, if anything we’ve cross posted.

Who knows, if anyone’s interested we might keep it and offer advice, but there are a lot of other LDR blogs out there, each with our own different situations and experiences so it depends on yours.

However, any questions about us, even non-LDR? 

dougaitken:

I was talking to one of the guys in work about my relationship. He’d known I had a girlfriend but somehow we hadn’t gone past that fact.

He asked how I was, and such, and I replied that I was happy this was shift 7 in the count down, he asked what countdown so I explained to him the next 6 / 7 weeks and we got chatting about how Danielle and I met, how we weren’t a typical LDR (I don’t mean to categorise but like we don’t just Skype a few times a week and that’s it), and he was so supportive which mean’t a lot. We normally have a good banter back and forth based on the fact I’m 5ft 5 and he’s like 6ft 7 but for once we had a pretty “serious” chat; see the thing is he’s from England so knows about leaving the place he’s known and moving somewhere. He said “that’s actually how I came to this Godforsaken country in the first place *wink*, my brother met his other half online” (or it was his sister meeting her bf, I can’t remember), and he went on to say that he totally gets it, he know it’s tough and such and he’s “not one of those narrow minded people who even in this day and age will judge people who meet online”.

And honestly trying not to judge him but I was so happily surprised when we talked about this; he is also someone who backs that idea of having your “one”. I was saying how it’s almost 5 month since I sent a certain text telling Danielle that I liked her but wasn’t sure what we were going to do and how far we’ve come from there, and how different it was, and he said “Well Dougy boy, when you know you know, I’ve only been with (name is girl he married 3 weeks back) 2 years and I knew when I met her!”. 

I wouldn’t blame you if you have your reservations, it’s only human nature, we see relationships fail all the time, but we also see those remarkable ones which keep going, and I know ours will be one of them.

I couldn’t care what most people think of my relationship but I’m so happy everyone I talk to is chuffed for me, and it’s nice to have kind words said about us, in a way it may only be 5 months since we started, but we’ve been talking constantly for the past 8 months. I will happily say that I want to spend the rest of my life with Danielle. It’s not just that I feel different and everything is much better, it’s the order of magnitude of how incredibly great it is. 

dougaitken:

The past few days while Danielle has been in DC have been in some ways so hard, unable to FaceTime we miss each other so much.

But it is also been really great for us as a couple, we’ve learned more about each other, had some great, loving, deep, open and honest conversations, we’ve got to know more about each other and our interests, it’s just been really good.

I’d love to have any questions the floor may have…?

tl;dr 

I’ve wondered why people in a long distance relationships seem to get a lot more hassle and negativity than “normal” couples. I’ve come to realise that there is still a heavy stigma attached to couple who seem to be able to make it work without regular physical proximity.

This will be a kick off post which I hope will spark of other posts about related topics.

Before Danielle the longest distance there was between my girlfriend & I was about 90 miles give or take. She came up to mine every other weekend, I won’t get into the relationship because that will be part of another post but for now it’s the distance & such. I didn’t even think of it as long distance, there was just a bit of travelling involved. 

So when Danielle & I decided to be together, I knew things would be different that anything I knew before. I’ve known people in long distance relationships before, I’ve known people to do similar to us, and I’ve known people whose relationship has become long distance because of situations. 

In a way, I know this discussion has a tangent that I’m slightly ignoring but I’ll get to that as well in another post (relationships started without physically meeting). What I want to focus on is those relationships where there is distance involved that mean the couple are apart from longer than they are together and to be physically together often just isn’t an option. 

While thinking of some ideas for posts and just in general about our relationship, it’s struck me that much of the advice and thought that I will share, can be applied to regular contact relationships too.

Basically, why do LDR couples get a lot of hassle, or even just very curious questions, that other couple’s don’t? 

I’m thinking things like

You don’t see each other regularly, they could seeing someone else?

How does it work if you can’t visit each other? 

What do you talk about? 

How do you socialise? 

What is this like/ what do you do about this or that?

My mind is drawing a blank on other examples just now, but a lot of it revolves around the fact that people still don’t get it that LDRs should still have the same basis as every other relationship. 

I’ve rambled a bit, not quite the post I had in mind when I started, but I think this is a good start. 

Please do ask us ideas, and share this about, suggest topics, ask questions. 

Every couple fights, but when it’s long distance, it just seems that much more difficult. Doug and I got into a little argument of sorts last night, and after we made up (after literally like 8 hours of being angry) I thought about how terrible it is fighting with someone whose 3245 miles away from you. 

All we can go on is our words. Sometimes talking through things makes fighting a lot more difficult because in reality, I knew if I could just be held and kissed, I’d feel better.

Doug can’t comfort me like I wish he could, like by physically holding me, reassuring me everything is going to be okay. I don’t know if there’s anyone out there in a long distance relationship who has a good tactic to making fights easier, but if they do, let me know…

winterof95:

I don’t wanna work :( (Taken with Instagram)

The best thing about dating a guy from another country is that he has the best accent. I could listen to him talk all day. Although sometimes he jumbles his words together + has a Scottish accent so I get confused. :(

So Doug and I decided to start this blog because not only is it going to get a lot of lovey-dovey junk off of people’s dashes, but I think we’re both pretty decent at understand long distance relationship, and we started this to prove that it can work! We want people who follow us to ask us anything like:

• Dynamics of our relationship
• Relationship advice
• How to deal with a LDR
• Basically anything about the general people we are
• Sex (because who doesn’t like to talk about sex)

I think that a lot of people don’t understand long distance relationships and do have a lot of questions about them. Even in modern day, where social networking sites run rampant amongst young people, meeting and dating someone you met via these sites is still so taboo, so yeah, ask us anything and you can say nice and mean things and we’ll take it all in, people were asking for a blog about us, and here it is!